Marriage: Words of wisdom.

At about 3am last night, I read this article that was shared on Facebook. Its title 'To wives: Before you were mummy' piqued my interest. I guess that's what happens when you become a new parent. Anyways, this article really resonated with me. 100%. I decided to blog about it so that I can always remember its content.

In the article, the writer talks about how married couples change when they have a baby. And more often than not, we are usually not mentally or emotionally prepared for this before the baby's arrival. It's not covered in any prenatal class and people don't advise you beforehand on how to handle this change. 

This is very true. I notice how my relationship with G has started to evolve with our lil girl's entrance into our lives. Our attention is no longer just on each other. Our topics have changed to baby ones. We spend lesser quality time on cuddling and talking to each other. We can't watch movies (our favorite activity together) as frequently anymore. We rush through meals or eat separately so that we can take care of Leia. On weekdays when he has to work, he sleeps in a separate room (this breaks my heart sometimes). Emotionally, I became a lil crazy in the first few weeks post delivery. It's better now but I'm still more needy compared to before pregnancy. And the list goes on. 

I can feel our romance slowly disappearing a little by little. And it really really scares me. Because he is the love of my life. My number one. And I want that to be my constant. 

I guess that's why my heart really felt the words in the article: 

'Ladies, before you were mummies, you were his. Men, before you were daddies, you were hers. Remember this. Hold on to this. Keep these words precious to you.' 

'Ladies, when Mummy becomes your name, remember this man. Remember he is your husband. Remember how much you love and appreciate him. Remember his love and devotion to you. And when the days are long and you need a break, fall into his arms.'

'Men, remember your bride. The care and love she has given you will spill to your children. Her love for you will not change. Give her the grace to be enough  even when she doesn't feel like it. When your days are long, hers are too. Remember her. Fall in love with her again.'

'Remember each other. There is no greater adventure for you to  experience and no greater gift than to walk through parenthood with your best friend. You are a team.'

Such words of wisdom fromscissor tail silk's blog. I will always keep these words close to my heart.